Oh My! This is a question we receive from most of our female clients. They haven’t changed their eating or exercise habits, however they cannot zip their pants anymore. With some, poor eating habits and lack of physical activity are the causes. With others, I’m sorry to report that physiological changes occur beginning at age 35! We retain more intra-abdominal fat as we get older and experience the effects of peri-menopause, menopause and post-menopause. The good news is that there are so many ways for you to combat them all!
In either case, in order to really get to the bottom of this issue you should first do a mental check for the reasons why you want to stop the widening of the body and begin widening the mind!
I encourage you to answer the following questions in your journal, on a piece of paper, or a cocktail napkin, and really take some time to think about them and answer them (honestly of course).
1. How long do you want to live, and why?
2. Why do you want to fit into your clothes?
3. How do the benefits out weigh the cost of putting the time aside to take care of you?
4. Why do you want to lose weight?
These are very important questions, of which I initially receive some “surface” answers. But when we really get down to the nitty gritty, I always uncover some good stuff.
The beginning answers are, “I want to look better”, “fit into my clothes”, and other answers you would typically expect. Every time I heard a “surface” answer, I asked that person, “why?” Now this is where we really make some headway.
When you answer the question “why do I want to lose weight?” to every answer keep asking yourself “why”.
Let me give you an example of a conversation.
Q: “Why do you want to lose weight?”
A: “To look better.”
Q: “Why do you want to look better?”
A: Here’s where the answers come flooding in;
- To have better sex
- To feel better about myself
- To not be embarrassed to shop
- To not have to ask the sales lady for a larger size
- To feel comfortable wearing a swim suit
- To be happy
- To perform better in my job
- To live long enough to enjoy my children and grandchildren
- To be comfortable naked in front of my spouse, to have better sex, to have better sex, etc., etc., etc.
This is how you tap into the emotional aspect of your health and fitness goals. Continue to ask yourself the question “why” as you write down each of your goals. The “why” will bring you to the true reason of what you really want.
Learning the genuine reasons of wanting to be fit and healthy will give you the motivation to hit the gym, take a class, hire a trainer, or just simply take a walk. Although an oxymoron, as we get older, its baby steps to the big finish!
Christine King is a Medical Exercise Specialist, Fitness Expert, and owner of Your Best Fit Inc.